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Love, Hate, and Mania

Mania, or in my case hypomania, is easy to love. It creates a buzz that carries you along, although you’re not always sure where to. Ordinary things become extraordinary, and extraordinary things become magical. I love mania. It can be fizzy, like champagne.

I hate mania, too. When it leaves, it leaves a hole behind. It leaves depression that’s like a nasty hangover. And many times, it can leave consequences. Sometimes dangerous. Sometimes shameful. Always unexpected.

I’m in the grip of hypomania right now. I recently got through a series of medical difficulties. Now, I’m back home, and not dependent on nurses and aides to bring me meals and wipe my ass. It’s glorious. And I’m celebrating by enjoying a burst of benevolence. It’s holiday time, and I’m back to my computer with a debit card and a desire to shop. That gives me an excuse, if not a reason.

I’m buying gifts for Dan and a few friends. I’ve bought so many for Dan that, now that the packages have started arriving, even I am a bit embarrassed. Fortunately, he has a birthday in April, and I can save some of the gifts for that.

In the past, Dan had the advantage. He could follow me around and watch what I oohed and aahed over, then sneak back and get it for me. But I am buying exclusively online now because I rarely go out. Dan doesn’t know how to buy online. I’ve offered to show him, but all the financial stuff goes to me, so I’d know where he bought stuff and how much he spent on it. This leaves only the store where he works to buy gifts. And he says he doesn’t know what to get me anymore, as I spend most of the day in pajamas and don’t wear earrings at home, so clothes and jewelry are pretty much out.

Anyway, I’m definitely manicky. I can tell. And I’m definitely spending more than I should. Fortunately, I just got paid for a freelance job I did, more than I usually get, so I haven’t gotten us into financial trouble, though it was a close thing. The check came just in time.

So. I’ve loved buying presents. I hate that I almost overdrew the bank account. I’m happy that I was saved by a check. I hate that the shower of presents may embarrass Dan, who won’t be able to reciprocate in a like manner.

Manic and hypomanic episodes are like that. A buzz and then self-doubt. A thrill and then regret.

I used to wish that I had mania too, instead of just depression. My theory was that if I were manic, I would get more accomplished. But I once knew a woman who had bipolar 1, rather than 2, so her manic episodes were more extreme. And her plans crashed and burned around her. She would start a project, tear it up, and redo it, even more than once. Her sense of humor was extreme and not really funny. (Once she mimed swallowing a whole bottle of pills.)

After that, I no longer wanted to be manic. But, as it happens, when my depression stabilized, my hypomania had more room to express itself. I haven’t indulged in the more dangerous behaviors, like drinking and driving. But this month, I can’t deny that I have hypomania.

I’m getting better at telling when it’s going to happen. Once I’m in the episode, I know. I feel the buzz. I notice the bank account dwindling.

Dan notices when I’m getting manicky, too. I can usually tell him that I feel it coming on and check it out with him. But this time, secrecy was part and parcel (literally) of it. Once it was getting beyond my control, I told him. Not about almost overdrawing our account, though. Once there was money back in the bank account, it didn’t seem necessary.

I’m not quite over this episode. I’m cooled down enough to rein in the buying. Just a couple more small presents for friends. I swear. It’s progress, anyway.

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Overeating and Bipolar Disorder

When you think about co-occurring disorders associated with bipolar disorder, you generally think of drug or alcohol abuse. But there’s another one you should consider: eating disorders.

For example, binge eating is a problem that many people with bipolar experience. Both conditions typically begin at a fairly young age. Both are experienced in cyclical patterns. And both are associated with changes in energy levels and eating patterns.

There’s scientific evidence that the two conditions are related. For example, research has shown that 30% of people with bipolar disorder also have problems with binge eating, Binge Eating Disorder (BED), or bulimia, and more than 9% of people with BED also have bipolar disorder.

The two disorders are intertwined, affecting each other. Someone experiencing a manic episode may be likely to overeat or binge, probably because of impaired impulse control. Depression, on the other hand, may lead to decreased appetite and low energy that makes it difficult to prepare food.

That’s not always true, though. The revved-up feeling of mania can lead someone to skip meals. Depression can lead a person to eat more “comfort foods,” which are often laden with carbs and sugar, as a coping mechanism, however maladaptive. These foods may increase serotonin and so make the person feel better temporarily. Either way, the over/undereating can cause stress while shopping or preparing food, or result in dissatisfaction with body image.

Medication for bipolar disorder can also have an effect on eating behaviors. We all know that certain drugs cause weight gain as a side effect. Antipsychotics, for instance, may contribute to increased eating because of changes in the brain’s reward system and a decreased ability to tell when you are full. And weight gain may lead to cycles of bingeing and purging.

Research has also shown that people with co-occurring bipolar and an eating disorder also may have PTSD, indicating a possible link between the conditions. It’s thought that people who have experienced trauma may use eating as a control mechanism.

At any rate, the combination of the two disorders is complex, and it’s likely that a person with both conditions may need help from a team or a holistic approach to treatment, both psychological and medical. It’s been suggested that topiramate (Topamax) or lamotrigine (Lamictal) can be considered, as these mood stabilizers don’t appear to result in weight gain.

Personally, I had a combination of the comfort food eating/skipping meals cycle. When I was in college, my weight fluctuated from roughly normal to too thin. Since then, thinness has not been a problem, possibly because of the medication I take. I certainly have a desire for comfort foods like mashed potatoes, pasta, and large amounts of cheese. One of my crazier comfort foods has been ridged potato chips with cream cheese, topped with M&Ms. My husband knows that when I want those particular ingredients, I’m sliding into depression. Lately, I’ve been swinging between comfort foods and skipping meals. On the other hand, I’ve lost 18 pounds since the spring. (My doctor asked me how I did it and I replied, “Eating less” rather than “skipping meals.” He thought I meant portion control, which I do try to do.) My bipolar disorder, while mostly stable, is still a cause of (less extreme) mood swings. My eating habits are likely just that—habits that I need to break. And I need to increase my activity, which should be easier once I get my knees replaced.

At any rate, I’ll try to keep an eye on my consumption and ask my husband to help me when it comes to eating better. Now that the holidays are almost over, it’s time to get back on track. Losing another 18 pounds sure wouldn’t do me any harm.

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Mania, Overthinking, and Costa Rica

I’ve had a bad spell of overthinking lately. It’s related to a bad hypomanic episode that I had lately. I had it in my head that my husband and I needed to move to Costa Rica. Of that I was sure. (Why Costa Rica? Of that I wasn’t sure.) What I couldn’t decide was whether we needed to go to Costa Rica for a week or two to scope out arrangements before we took the proverbial plunge.

At first, I had been exploring whether there was any real estate for rent at a reasonable price in or near the town of Grecia, which I had somehow fixated on. (Why Grecia? Again, not a clue. That’s about the last thing I’d need to decide and arrange for if we were to move.) I was researching the cost of living, the health care system, and the cuisine. I was practicing in my head the Spanish that remained from my high school days, supplemented by “essential phrases” that were listed online. I looked up what papers were needed and how long you could stay on a temporary visa. I checked on whether we could bring our cat.

It kept me awake at night. After I take my nighttime meds, I usually read for about a half hour before I shut down my brain and try to sleep at night. But I had no such luck. The arrangements, the language, and the travel all occupied my thoughts. I would give up on sleeping, try reading for another half hour. Then the cycle would start all over. For the first time in a long time, I need sleeping pills—the 10 mg. ones. Even then, sleep didn’t come easy.

My husband pointed out that maybe it would be better if we went to Costa Rica for a week or two to see how we liked it before we made the move. Instantly, my mania switched in a different direction. I began working with a travel consultant on what cities or attractions (in addition to Grecia) we might like to see. Anticipating a chunk of money coming in (another manic fantasy), I researched flights, even selecting flight times and layovers as well as costs. I selected dates, then revised them based on seasonal prices. Again, I couldn’t sleep for running over the arrangements in my head.

At last the mania and the planning eased off. The fantasy funding fell through, as I should have realized it would. Along with it, my mania retreated and my overthinking stopped—at least for the time being. My overthinking backed off too, at least on the subject of Costa Rica. Now, what I have to overthink is my writing assignments, which seem to have multiplied while I wasn’t looking. I’ll make money, but not enough to get me to Costa Rica.

At any rate, I’m happy to say that I’m back to where I was before the mania and the overthinking—back to sleeping without sleeping pills, anyway. Now all I have to overthink, besides the writing, is our upcoming trip to Florida, which provides plenty of fodder. I’ve prearranged everything I can think of, but I’m sure there’s something that I’ve forgotten or that is completely out of my control. And I hate that feeling. It leads to other things that are out of control, like thinking and mania.

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Where Does the Money Go?

Though it embarrasses me to write this, it’s true that when I’m hypomanic, I overspend. That’s one of the ways I can tell that I’m actually hypomanic, when I go on spending sprees. Online shopping is my downfall.

I buy things for myself. I’m still in search of the perfect bra, and I like to have a good supply of underwear. I buy exotic jewelry—amber, picture jasper, zoisite—this despite the fact that I almost never leave the house. I end up wearing the jewelry to my doctor’s appointments. And I know it doesn’t really go with my t-shirt collection.

I buy books. Lots of books. I have an e-reader with almost 2,000 books on it. I know I’ll never read all of them, but I can’t resist something really interesting or by a favorite author.

I buy presents. I see things online that I think my husband might like, buy them, and squirrel them away until his birthday or our anniversary or Christmas. Half the time I don’t even know what he’ll do with them. My latest purchase for him was an articulated copper trilobite. I figure he has a curio cabinet and, if he can’t figure out anything else to do with it, he could put it there.

I buy presents for friends, too. Recently I bought carved stone guitar picks, for no reason, for two of my dear friends who play the guitar. And I sent a friend one of his favorite treats for his birthday.

Has this gotten me into financial trouble? I’d have to say yes. We’ve had some financial reverses recently, but truthfully, we could have absorbed them better if we still had the money I spent. There’s no room left on our credit cards. At the end of the month, things get tight and we have to watch every penny until our Social Security comes in.

Of course, my husband has his own fits of reckless spending. He buys presents, too, mostly for me or his mother. And he buys lots of garden supplies, everything from individual plants to truckloads of mulch. He also indulges in fossilized wood, spheres of polished stone, antiques, and the like. He can’t resist the discount shelves at the grocery store and brings home expensive (but bargain!) delicacies like canned banana leaves and pumpkin pasta sauce. We both like to eat out.

So, how do I try to keep these hypomanic spending jags down? I do try.

First of all, I take my meds faithfully. They include a mood leveler, which I hope will cut down on the hypomania.

Second, I listen to my husband. He often notices when I’m teetering on the edge of hypomania and tells me so.

Third, I try to spend the least amount possible when I do spend money. I buy books when they are discounted to $3 or less. (When we ran out of money at the end of last month, I didn’t even look at the ads for bargain books, just deleted them.) I buy underwear only when it is on a closeout sale. I use gift cards when I have them.

I also try to set limits. I try not to buy things that cost more than $25. (Sometimes I don’t make it.) I watch for sales, free shipping, and 2-for-1 offers. When I consider a larger expense, I talk it over with my husband. (Sometimes he enables me, however.)

Then too, I’m the one who pays the bills and monitors the credit cards and bank account. Sometimes I miscalculate, but I almost always know how much is in the bank and what bills are due and when. There are times when I tell my husband how much we can spend on groceries for the week (not that he always sticks to what I tell him).

Of course, the consequences of my hypomanic spending increase my anxiety, to the point where I’m almost immobilized. (That’s where I am right now.) I’m not sleeping well, or some nights at all. But I am trying to find ways to bring in more money to supplement our Social Security and my husband’s job. But my work is unpredictable and so are my earnings. There are steady months, but right now my assignments are in a slump.

Oh, well. I guess overspending is better than hypersexuality.

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My Brazen Hussy Phase

This is me in my Brazen Hussy phase, back in my college days. The piano player is a friend that I sometimes went places with. (We tried dating once, but it was a total bust.) We decided to recreate a saloon girl-type photo at the piano in the student union building. There was a lot of hooting and cheering as we got in position. I didn’t have a saloon-girl outfit, so I dressed Western instead. The vest was one my mother made for me out of various calico fabric scraps. I don’t remember just when or where I got the leather hat, but it went with me throughout college and beyond.

My Brazen Hussy phase was the first time that hypomania hit, except for the many times that it appeared as anxiety before I went to college, and after.

As many people do the first time they experience hypomania, especially the sexual kind, I rather enjoyed it. I flirted and dated, which I never did in high school. I joined a sorority and went to frat parties. I enjoyed my first kiss and then many more. I had a mad crush on a musician and eventually got to know him too. He was exciting and passionate and awakened something in me that never even seemed to exist before. When he broke up with me, I went into a deep downward spiral. I won’t say that was why I took a year off college, but I was confused about my future, and that surely didn’t help.

Back in my hometown for the next year, I got my hypomanic mojo back. I engaged in what I knew was a risky relationship with a coworker. I kept up with him for years and told him about my former life as a Brazen Hussy and about my depression. We went out during the former and he stuck with me through the latter. But he always said he wanted Brazen Hussy Jan rather than timid, depressed Jan.

I was back in Brazen Hussy mode when I met the man who would become my husband. We were with a couple of women who already knew him and greeted him with a kiss. “Don’t I get one too?” I asked boldly and got one. He kissed me again around the campfire and followed me around all weekend. I basked in the attention. It was exactly what I needed at the time.

Shortly thereafter, I moved back to my hometown. But we conducted a long-distance relationship until finally he moved out to be with me and, eventually, we married.

I won’t say I never went back into Brazen Hussy mode again. Hypomania still affected me. I still got mad crushes and flirted outrageously. Finally, however, I was diagnosed with bipolar and properly medicated. I won’t say the Brazen Hussy mode went away entirely, but episodes were fewer and further between and easier to understand.

I didn’t originally mean this post to be so confessional, but hypomania and hypersexuality are a very real part of bipolar disorder that I didn’t miss out on in my younger years. And that I sometimes miss in my later years. I know that not having those surges of intense feeling is better for me. Nowadays, however, when my bipolar disorder kicks up, it’s generally bipolar depression. I’m a lot more settled now and don’t have much room in life for hypomania. When I experience it now, it usually manifests as anxiety again or mild euphoria and overspending.

But I’d be lying if I said I didn’t miss my Brazen Hussy phase from time to time.

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An Irrational Thought

I just bought a laptop because the air conditioner isn’t working. If that seems like an irrational thought I acted on, it is. It’s also a measure of my anxiety. And a consequence of my current mixed state.

Let me explain.

Our central air conditioner puts out a tiny bit of coolish air, but not enough to make the house comfortable. The weather has gotten up into the 80s, and the temp in the house is sometimes higher than that. And I know that July and August are coming, so temps over 100 degrees are likely. I’m afraid I’ll have heat stroke and die or at least have heat exhaustion and be incapacitated. I spend most of the day working at my desk, with fans on and cold beverages readily available, but still the heat gets to me. And I really need to do the work. We need the money, modest as my pay is.

So why (I hear you ask) don’t we call an AC repair service? My anxiety plus hoarding mean we don’t let people in the house. I suppose there’s a chance that they would only have to look at the outdoor unit, but I can’t count on that. There’s still a possible solution my husband can try. He’s going to get a tester and check the fuses. If that’s the problem, it’s easily fixable.

There’s the anxiety. What about the mixed state?

When I get hypomanic, one of my behaviors is online shopping. And there was just a sale at Best Buy on Apple computers that lasted three days. I ordered a laptop. I made sure it was a refurbished one to keep the price down, but I also bought the mouse, the subscription to Microsoft Office, and a carrying case. It was a tidy sum, money that we don’t have because of car repairs, but I put it on our Best Buy credit card. I also told myself that it was still cheaper than air conditioning repair. (A quick Google suggests that it’s likely a wash.)

How does this solve the air conditioning dilemma? If I have a laptop computer, I can take it to Panera, McDonald’s, or some other air-conditioned place and do my work while sipping on iced tea. (Panera has plugs and outlets conveniently located, I know.) Work accomplished. Body temperature regulated. Achievement unlocked.

Of course, I realize this is a slightly ridiculous plan. I know that my anxiety and hypomania are largely responsible. Ultimately, though, I’m responsible.

There’s still the chance that Dan can get the AC working again, if the fuses are the problem. If that happens, I can return the laptop (within 15 days after I receive it). So I have options, which I love.

I’m still left with confusing feelings. Maybe I’m too fearful of the heat or too dubious about being able to do my work in an overheated room. (I don’t think so, because I’m older and have had bad reactions to heat before. Computers also have bad reactions to heat.) Maybe I was too impulsive when I ordered a new laptop and all the fixings. Maybe even with the money I earn, the credit card expense will strain our finances further. I fortuitously just received a raise at work, so maybe that will help make up the difference.

I’m not asking for advice. I’ll work this out on my own somehow or at least with the help of my husband. He knows I’m in a mixed state, but the family finances are my responsibility and he usually goes with what I think we should do.

Things should be clearer by the time I post this.

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Christmas, Bipolar Style

This post will go live on Christmas Eve, and the holiday has been much on my mind of late. My reactions to the holiday aren’t necessarily what you will experience, but as a bipolar person, I wanted to share what depression and hypomania do to me during the holiday season.

Hypomania

I’ve tried the traditional giving of gifts on Christmas Day, but this year our gifts are all either pre- or post-holiday. Last year, I was hypomanic and overspent. I was disappointed, though, when my selections for my husband didn’t garner the response I thought they would. He still hasn’t used the camera I got him last year on the grounds that he didn’t have the time to figure it how to use it. (I’m going to suggest that one of his gifts to me will be to learn its workings.)

This year, I’m slightly less hypomanic. We got a present for both of us, a little early. We got matching heart, lock, and key tattoos. Since the tattoo shop is closed on Christmas and the tattoo artist is much in demand, we booked the appointment early and have already had these done. I’ve bought Dan another item or two on sale—oven mitts and a bathrobe—that I’m telling myself aren’t really presents, just things he needs, so he doesn’t have to get more presents for me. I honestly don’t mind if he doesn’t get me anything else. He gives me little gifts all year long—just things he finds at the store he works at that he thinks I’ll like.

This year I’m working at home, and I plan to work on Christmas Day, at least for a few hours. Realistically, I could take the day off and not risk missing my deadline, but the routine of working helps keep me centered. I have been exploring what local restaurants are open on Christmas Day so we don’t have to cook. For New Year’s Eve and Day, we actually have a tradition—champagne and appetizers on the Eve and Chinese Buffet on the Day. We often ask friends to join us for that.

Depression

I don’t think I’ll be too depressed to go out New Year’s Day, but then again, who knows? Dan has invited friends from work, so there will be people there I don’t know, as well as two that I do. I don’t really feel up to small talk these days, so Dan can handle that with his work friends.

I’ve given up trying to get into the “Christmas spirit” by dressing for the occasion. It never works for me. I’ve had Christmas earrings. One year I had a Grinch t-shirt. I once worked at a place where everyone wore holiday sweaters and sweatshirts. I didn’t have any and felt left out, but I didn’t want to pay the prices for the sweaters. After the holiday, I bought a couple on sale for the next year’s festivities, but I lost the job before I had an opportunity to use them. Oh, well.

My Lack of Advice

I know there are a lot of articles this time of year giving advice on how to deal with the holidays while in a shaky mental state. I’m not going to do that, because you already know all the standard advice—self-care—and I have nothing really insightful to add to it.

Except that it’s okay to have your own traditions or to ignore the holidays altogether if they’re just too much for you. If you’re alone, you could be subject to depression or just feeling numb, but that’s a natural reaction if you’re like me. Scale down your celebrations to suit yourself. If you’re experiencing anxiety, you can skip big celebrations and have your own small—or private—one. If you’re hypomanic, you may be up to some festivities, but you don’t have to be the life of the party at every one. And keep track of your spending. Most people prefer to get only one or two thoughtful presents rather than a flood of random ones.

I don’t wish you Happy Holidays, just survivable ones.

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Saved From My Manicky Self

My usual mania symptom is overspending. This time, it was overextending.

It went down like this.

My side gig is as a ghostwriter. It doesn’t pay a lot, but it supplements my Social Security and, as my friend Robbin and I used to say, keeps me from stealing hubcaps.

Usually, I write self-help books. Ways to declutter your house. How to write in plain English (that one was fun). Advice for older teens nearing adulthood. How to end burnout. Grieving the death of a pet. They’re popular topics, but not very interesting to write about. (Occasionally, I get a more challenging and interesting topic, like pandemic preparedness or flesh-eating diseases.)

But, even though I took the fiction writer’s test and passed, I’ve only written one fiction book. It was pure smut. I have no moral or philosophical objection to pornography (or erotica, or whatever you wish to call it). I did the assignment and the customer was happy with it.

But I’ve been so booked up with self-help that I haven’t had the opportunity or the time to seek out a fiction assignment.

Until recently. I was contacted about writing a plot outline for a piece of fiction with the likelihood of getting to write the book after the customer approved the outline. It would be a 100,000-word paranormal fantasy romance, which sounded like a treat after self-help and smut. I was on the shortlist for the assignment.

And I really wanted it. I heard about the prospect just before the weekend and figured I wouldn’t hear a decision about it until Monday at least. I spent the weekend rolling it over and over in my mind—developing lead character, love interest, and villains; thinking up places in the multiverse where scenes could take place.

In other words, I got manicky. Realistically, I should have simply turned down the project. I’m already working on a project that will keep me busy through the end of January, and I write 1,500 words a day on it. If I took on the fantasy book, that expected word count would double. At least until February, I would be writing 3,000 words a day.

Theoretically, that’s not impossible. But I have a writing routine that allows me to get my 1,500 words done every day and leave time for self-care, interaction with my husband, meals, etc. It fits in well with how I work around my bipolar disorder and my strategies for coping with the symptoms.

And if I had made it from the shortlist to the one-list, I would have tried to do it. That was the manicky part of myself talking. It said I could do it, and do it well.

But I didn’t get the assignment. My disappointment was mingled with relief. Realistically, it was doubtful that I could have done it. The chance that I would do poorly on one assignment or the other, or both, was high. The possibility of working myself to frustration or exhaustion was real. It really would have been a bad idea.

So I dodged a proverbial bullet. My manic tendencies were short-circuited, and I was saved from acting on the feeling that I could do it all.

I’ll try to remember that, the next time I’m tempted to overextend myself. I’ll still be on the lookout for fiction assignments, but I won’t take one unless my schedule is clear.

The bad news is that I’m still manicky and back to overspending.

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Bipolar Robbed Me of Reading

I don’t remember a time when I couldn’t read.

Except when bipolar disorder took it away from me.

I was what they call a “natural reader” – someone who learns to read without being taught. Someone who just picks it up out of the air. And for me, reading was like breathing. It kept me going, kept me alive. Reading was part and parcel of my identity. I was never without a book within reach. I read while eating, walking down the hall, going to sleep, riding in a car. (Fortunately, I didn’t get carsick.)

Throughout my undiagnosed childhood years, reading was a way for me and my brain to play nicely together. If I was depressed, I could lose myself in escapist fantasy. If I was hypomanic, I could soar on adventures. And during the in-between times, I had access to unlimited worlds – places, people, situations, ideas, conversations – both familiar and strangely new. Reading was my joy and my solace.

For many years, reading was therapeutic. I could not only lose myself and escape the unpleasantness of my disorder for a time, I could learn more about depression and bipolar disorder, compare my experiences with those of others who struggled with mental illness, discover how medicine and law and psychology and sociology could shine a light on my experiences. I could even (God help me!) read self-help books, which were popular at the time, and learn all sorts of theories and techniques that didn’t improve what was wrong with me.

Books and words were my life. I got degrees in English language and literature. I read for work and for fun. I edited magazines, wrote articles and (occasionally) children’s stories, and worked on textbooks.

Then my brain broke and reading went away.

I had a major depressive episode, which lasted literally years, and during that time I found it nearly impossible to read.

Why? My old companions, depression and hypomania.

Depression made me dull. I didn’t care about anything and found no happiness even in the books that had always been my refuge. I remember picking up a book that I more than loved and had returned to dozens of times, that had shaped my life in many ways, thinking that the familiar words would touch something still buried inside me. But this time there was no magic. Not even interest. The words were flat and dull, mere ink on the page or pixels on the screen. Reading – engaging with an author’s ideas, imagining characters, following plots and dialogue, discovering facts – was beyond me.

And hypomania? My version, instead of bringing euphoria, brought anxiety – an overwhelming twitchiness and fear of the unknown, jumping not just at shadows, but at the idea of shadows, things that had never happened. My attention span shrank to nearly nothing. I could barely read a few pages, not even a chapter, and when I was finally able to get back to a book, I was lost, disconnected.

Now that I have recovered from that episode, I am glad to say, I can read again. I read myself to sleep at night once again instead of crying myself to sleep. I devour entire chapters, keep at least two books going at once (one fiction, one nonfiction), delight in revisiting old favorites and seeking out new authors and genres (YA fiction and steampunk, recently) and topics. I’ve even picked up that beloved fantasy trilogy again and been swept away once more.

Not everything I read is uplifting. At the moment I’m deep into Cult Trip, a horrendous true account of an abusive sex cult in New Zealand. But I can tell when it’s getting too deep and frightening and switch over to Jasper Fforde’s Thursday Next literary fantasy Lost in a Good Book before the awful realities can drag me down.

And I can tell you this: It’s better to be lost in a good book than lost in your own broken brain.

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Dear Bipolar Disorder

Dear Bipolar Disorder,

We’ve had a relationship for decades now, though it’s one I never chose. To tell the truth, I can’t even remember when we met. Gradually, you just moved in. So I guess we’re stuck as roommates for the rest of my life. You can’t break your lease and I can’t move out. That being said, there are some things I need to talk to you about. We’ve never been friends. We never will be. I have some issues with you; there are compromises we need to make.

I’ll take my meds faithfully if you back off when I do. By that I mean no major depressions of longer than a week and no panic attacks while I’m trying to sleep.

I’ll pay for those meds, as long as you settle down enough to let me keep working and earning money and paying for meds. Just leave me enough concentration to do that and to read, and I’ll be satisfied.

I won’t go to Chuck E. Cheese or Cici’s Pizza or shopping at a mall anytime after Thanksgiving if you will let me go out at other times to other places without getting your figurative undies in a bundle.

I will try to minimize the stress in my life (see above) if you will cut out the physical symptoms when there is stress anyway. You know the ones I’m talking about. Ick. Just ick. I hate cleaning up after you.

And can we talk about spoons? I know you only give me a limited number per day, but it would sure help if I knew what that number was. Is there any way you can be more consistent? If I have to borrow spoons from the next day or force myself to attend to some vital call or lengthy errand despite not having spoons, I promise to spend the next day in bed, just to satisfy you.

Please, if you can, give me some non-anxiety-laden hypomania so that I can go out and enjoy things with my husband and friends. If you agree to this, I will occasionally let you buy things off the Internet, for $20 or less.

And while we’re on the subject of enjoyment, I would appreciate it if you would give me back my libido. So would my husband. I know you don’t take orders from him, but it would be esteemed a favor.

Don’t even talk to me about hurting myself. I won’t listen. No matter how loud you get.

Don’t get between me and my friends. You’ve done that too often already and I just can’t put up with it anymore.

No more screwing with my memories. I’ve already lost enough. You can keep the ones of everything stupid I’ve ever done, but I will not watch when you push play on my internal video playback.

Now that I’ve finally got some self-esteem back, you just keep your claws off it. I need it and you don’t.

No dogs allowed. Especially large Black Dogs.

Oh, and tell your buddy Depression to leave my husband alone.

No love,

Me

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