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It’s Not That Simple

I’ve bitched before about the ads on TV for psychotropic drugs, and I’m about to do it again. The first ones that caught my eye were the ones that compared depression to holding up a smiley face mask in front of their face, while the person’s actual face exhibited sadness.

But it’s not that simple. Smiling depression is a thing, of course, but treating it is not as simple as taking away the mask and replacing it with a real smile. Psychotropics don’t work that way. Of course, since the ads are for psychotropics that are supposed to work quickly (though not as quickly as the ads imply), we can’t expect them to mention the years of struggle and therapy that go into improving the condition.

The next kind of commercials are a tiny bit better. They mention actual symptoms of depression: sadness, loss of focus, lack of interest in fun things, or an inability to do chores.

But it’s not that simple. Personally, I don’t think it’s a tragedy if the barista has to wait two seconds while I remember whether I want oat milk or if the family has to put away the laundry. These are obvious but probably not major symptoms of depression or symptoms of major depression. What about not getting out of bed for three days or not showering for a week or more? Crying all day about nothing or everything? Thoughts of self-harm or suicide? They just don’t make for good 60-second television. The long, lingering effects of depression are glossed over or ignored.

There are also ads for treatments for bipolar disorder, both types I and II. Most of them concentrate on the mania or hypomania side of the problem. Most of the ads use metaphors—climbing a tower of cards or going from darkness to light. Overspending is the issue most illustrated in regard to bipolar if you don’t count all the depression ads. I recall one that showed a woman who had bought a lot of expensive cameras and came to realize that she had overdone it.

But it’s not that simple. Bipolar disorder is a complex disorder that metaphors just can’t capture. Like depression, the ads concentrate on only one symptom, and don’t do a good job of creating those metaphors. (I’m just glad they don’t use a metaphor of someone on a swing.) I realize that it’s not likely that ads on TV will address hypersexuality, but what about the pressured speech, euphoria, irritability, bad decisions, and reckless behavior that go with mania?

Schizophrenia is probably the worst. The ads show not the disorder, but the lack of it—women saying, “I’m glad I don’t hear voices anymore” and “I’m glad I don’t still think everyone is looking at me” or men playing guitar to illustrate how “normal” the drugs make them.

But it’s not as simple as that. I admit that it’s not possible to portray some of the more frightening aspects of schizophrenia, which would probably only add to the stigma surrounding schizophrenia. But making it seem like one pill will cure it isn’t reasonable or accurate.

Then there’s tardive dyskinesia, also called TD. The ads do a competent job of giving examples of uncontrolled movements and how they interfere with a person’s life. The drug being advertised may indeed help with those.

But it’s not that simple. If you read the fine print at the bottom of the screen or listen to the rapid-paced list of possible side effects, you’ll notice that one of them is uncontrolled movements. WTAF? It gets rid of uncontrolled movements but may cause uncontrolled movements? Why take it and take the chance?

The ads I may hate the most are the ones that emphasize family. We see a woman folding the family’s laundry, grandparents romping with the kids at a park, and other idyllic scenes.

But it’s not that simple. Treating a mental illness is not something you do for the benefit of other people. It’s something you do for yourself, even if you don’t have a nuclear family or grandchildren or a large circle of friends. Granted, the people around you may be happy that you’ve found a therapy that works (and the ads almost never show a combination of drug therapy and talk therapy). That’s a side effect—a good one, but still not the intended effect of the psychotropic drug.

I attribute this primarily to the lack of inventiveness and understanding shown by people at the advertising agencies, as well as the tiptoeing around the whole subject of SMI. But what happens is that the viewers get an unrealistic view of both the disorders themselves and what the drugs can do to relieve them. It’s not simple, and the ads simply don’t reflect that.

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Promises Made

My husband and I have a pact regarding suicide. No, it’s not a suicide pact of the kind you read about in the newspapers. This is a pact aimed at preventing suicide.

Dan and I both have brain illnesses. He has depression, and I have bipolar disorder. We both take meds for them and are reasonably stable a reasonable amount of the time.

That wasn’t always true, however. At one point or another, we each have considered killing ourselves.

Dan’s episode happened when he lost a job that had started out successfully and well, but devolved into chaos, disappointment, and bad feelings. On the day he was let go, he was so upset that the people where he worked called an ambulance to meet him at our house and take him for a psych evaluation. But Dan has worked in some psych units, so he knew how to answer their questions without setting off any alarms that would cause them to keep him there.

Much later, however, he told me that he really had been suicidal at the time.

My brush with suicide came after my mother died. In the aftermath, Dan did something I thought was dishonest (I won’t go into details), and I catastrophized. I didn’t approve of his action and was alarmed when he said he would do it again in the same circumstances. I felt that if that happened, I would be compelled to drop a dime on him. Then he would be disgraced, lose his job, maybe even be subject to legal consequences. I couldn’t live with the thought of that, so I decided the only thing I could do was fix the situation and then kill myself.

If it seems like those are crappy reasons for suicide, well, they are, but they didn’t seem like it at the time. That’s the insidious nature of suicidal thoughts.

We didn’t just have thoughts, however. We had plans for how to do it. (When we were able to talk about it later, it happened that our plans were almost identical.)

What stopped us? I can’t speak for Dan, but I kept postponing the act until I had settled on a method. Then my meds kicked in and I didn’t feel the need anymore.

Now we have a pact. If either one of us thinks about suicide in the future, we’ve agreed to tell each other, generally by saying, “I’m having bad thoughts.” That’s our code for it. (If we have lesser bad thoughts, we say, “I’m having bad thoughts, but not the really bad ones.”) That’s our pact. We will let each other know if we’re feeling bad enough to consider it so we can get help for ourselves or for each other.

And when we say those words, we know to take them seriously and to talk about what we’re feeling and why. We help each other consider other, less lethal, responses. Fortunately, we have both abided by our pact.

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Where Does the Money Go?

Though it embarrasses me to write this, it’s true that when I’m hypomanic, I overspend. That’s one of the ways I can tell that I’m actually hypomanic, when I go on spending sprees. Online shopping is my downfall.

I buy things for myself. I’m still in search of the perfect bra, and I like to have a good supply of underwear. I buy exotic jewelry—amber, picture jasper, zoisite—this despite the fact that I almost never leave the house. I end up wearing the jewelry to my doctor’s appointments. And I know it doesn’t really go with my t-shirt collection.

I buy books. Lots of books. I have an e-reader with almost 2,000 books on it. I know I’ll never read all of them, but I can’t resist something really interesting or by a favorite author.

I buy presents. I see things online that I think my husband might like, buy them, and squirrel them away until his birthday or our anniversary or Christmas. Half the time I don’t even know what he’ll do with them. My latest purchase for him was an articulated copper trilobite. I figure he has a curio cabinet and, if he can’t figure out anything else to do with it, he could put it there.

I buy presents for friends, too. Recently I bought carved stone guitar picks, for no reason, for two of my dear friends who play the guitar. And I sent a friend one of his favorite treats for his birthday.

Has this gotten me into financial trouble? I’d have to say yes. We’ve had some financial reverses recently, but truthfully, we could have absorbed them better if we still had the money I spent. There’s no room left on our credit cards. At the end of the month, things get tight and we have to watch every penny until our Social Security comes in.

Of course, my husband has his own fits of reckless spending. He buys presents, too, mostly for me or his mother. And he buys lots of garden supplies, everything from individual plants to truckloads of mulch. He also indulges in fossilized wood, spheres of polished stone, antiques, and the like. He can’t resist the discount shelves at the grocery store and brings home expensive (but bargain!) delicacies like canned banana leaves and pumpkin pasta sauce. We both like to eat out.

So, how do I try to keep these hypomanic spending jags down? I do try.

First of all, I take my meds faithfully. They include a mood leveler, which I hope will cut down on the hypomania.

Second, I listen to my husband. He often notices when I’m teetering on the edge of hypomania and tells me so.

Third, I try to spend the least amount possible when I do spend money. I buy books when they are discounted to $3 or less. (When we ran out of money at the end of last month, I didn’t even look at the ads for bargain books, just deleted them.) I buy underwear only when it is on a closeout sale. I use gift cards when I have them.

I also try to set limits. I try not to buy things that cost more than $25. (Sometimes I don’t make it.) I watch for sales, free shipping, and 2-for-1 offers. When I consider a larger expense, I talk it over with my husband. (Sometimes he enables me, however.)

Then too, I’m the one who pays the bills and monitors the credit cards and bank account. Sometimes I miscalculate, but I almost always know how much is in the bank and what bills are due and when. There are times when I tell my husband how much we can spend on groceries for the week (not that he always sticks to what I tell him).

Of course, the consequences of my hypomanic spending increase my anxiety, to the point where I’m almost immobilized. (That’s where I am right now.) I’m not sleeping well, or some nights at all. But I am trying to find ways to bring in more money to supplement our Social Security and my husband’s job. But my work is unpredictable and so are my earnings. There are steady months, but right now my assignments are in a slump.

Oh, well. I guess overspending is better than hypersexuality.

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Prayer and Bipolar Disorder

My mother believed in the power of prayer, and thought I should do more of it. I can’t say she was wrong. She prayed for self-improvement (for God to take away her bitterness at a relative) and for social issues (returning prayer to schools). I don’t know whether she ever prayed for an end to my bipolar disorder (she kept most of her praying private between her and God), but I never have. I don’t think it works that way.

So, what do I think about bipolar disorder and prayer? I think there are many things about bipolar disorder that you could pray about.

You could pray that science finds better treatments for bipolar disorder.

You could pray that you find a support system that helps you (or give thanks for the one you already have).

You could pray that you find a therapist, or a therapy, or a psychiatrist, or a medication that helps you. (Though I would recommend putting some effort into doing this one yourself as well as praying.)

You could pray that you have the strength to get out of bed in the morning or the peace to sleep at night.

You could pray for understanding of what you’re going through—from another person, an employer, the world at large, or even yourself.

You could pray that you don’t do too much harm while in the grip of mania or depression.

You could pray that you will recognize when someone is reaching out to you and that you will have the ability to accept.

You could pray that you have the courage to reach out to someone else, and the wisdom to keep reaching.

In my opinion, what you can’t do is “pray away” the bipolar disorder. If you’ve got it, you have to find a way to live with it. If prayer helps you do that, more power to you. But, again, in my opinion, prayer is not a cure for the disorder. There are some things that are meant for religion or philosophy to make better, and things that science has a better shot at.

You can point to various miraculous remissions of cancer or other diseases, or make the argument that removing demonic possession would now be called healing of mental illness. And if those give you comfort or hope, again, good for you.

St. Dymphna is the patron saint of the mentally afflicted (though personally, I think she should be the patron saint of abused children). If she, or God, or some other higher power of whatever religion or denomination or sect can lessen your suffering, go for it.

I just don’t believe that you—or I—personally will be cured of bipolar disorder by prayer.

Feel free to disagree with me.

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SMI in Higher Ed

I recently discovered a book written by Katie Rose Guest Pryal called Life of the Mind Interrupted: Essays on Mental Health and Disability in Higher Education. I was a little behind on reading the book—it came out in 2017. But I can’t imagine much in academia has changed since then.

In the book, Pryal presents short, readable essays about her experiences and those of other people who experience bipolar disorder, OCD, anxiety, ADD, and schizophrenia and must navigate the systems of working in academia. Pryal herself, now a law professor specializing in disability studies, says in the introduction that “academia isn’t an easy place to be if your brain isn’t quite right.” One interviewee remarked, “They hired you for your mind…Why would you volunteer that there’s something wrong with it?” The first chapter includes essays on disclosure.

If that were all the book covered, it would still be a revelation and an important work. But The Mind Interrupted is relevant to people with SMI in other areas of life as well. Just look at these essay titles: Disclosure Blues, Breaking the Mad Genius Myth, Working When Your Brain Isn’t, Handling Personal Tragedies Around You, How to Have the Accommodations Talk, Believe Your Colleagues With Disabilities, Trigger Warnings Are a Disability Issue, and more. These are issues that everyone with SMI has to deal with, whether they work in a burger joint, a business office, or aren’t employed at all. Given her circumstances, it’s understandable that Pryal focuses on higher education, but I feel that this is a valuable book for anyone living with SMI.

I’ve written before about how we refer to mental illness, SMI, brain illness, behavioral health, etc. Pryal uses a term that hadn’t occurred to me—psychiatric disability. It brought me up short. I have bipolar disorder. Is my condition a psychiatric disability? Ignoring the fact that I didn’t get disability when I applied for it, I would have to say it is. I have limitations that interfere with my ability to make a living. I have to deal with the question of whether to disclose my mental status whenever I apply for a job. I’m lucky that I now work independently from home and can basically make my own hours, an accommodation that likely would not have been available in the publishing companies where I used to work, even if I had asked for it.

When I was in academia as a grad student and teaching assistant, I hadn’t been diagnosed with bipolar, but I certainly had it. The stress was nearly incapacitating. I remember having a meltdown in a poetry class, which was ignored by the other students and the professor, aside from a few sidelong looks. I got one bad student review—scathing, really—and couldn’t bring myself to read any student reviews for the remaining three semesters. It’s similar to an experience that Pryal recounts in Life of the Mind Interrupted.

My experiences bear out what Pryal says in her book. As she explains, “This is a book about mental illness and academia. But this is also a book about so much more than that: it’s about grief, and friendship, and collegiality, and accessibility, and tragedy. It is about trying to get by in a world that fears you, that believes you are unfit for your job, that wants to take your children away….I’d spent my years in academia in hiding.” And so did the people Pryal interviewed for her book. As they were struggling to reach the safety of tenure, disclosure was not an option. Accommodations such as altered schedules were not requested or offered, even though people with mental illness are a protected class under ADA.

There’s so much more in Life of the Mind Interrupted: intersectionality, motherhood, creativity, language, students with disabilities, stigma, teaching, allies, privacy, and other essential topics. If you skip this book because you’re not in the institutions of higher education, you’re missing something truly important.

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An Irrational Thought

I just bought a laptop because the air conditioner isn’t working. If that seems like an irrational thought I acted on, it is. It’s also a measure of my anxiety. And a consequence of my current mixed state.

Let me explain.

Our central air conditioner puts out a tiny bit of coolish air, but not enough to make the house comfortable. The weather has gotten up into the 80s, and the temp in the house is sometimes higher than that. And I know that July and August are coming, so temps over 100 degrees are likely. I’m afraid I’ll have heat stroke and die or at least have heat exhaustion and be incapacitated. I spend most of the day working at my desk, with fans on and cold beverages readily available, but still the heat gets to me. And I really need to do the work. We need the money, modest as my pay is.

So why (I hear you ask) don’t we call an AC repair service? My anxiety plus hoarding mean we don’t let people in the house. I suppose there’s a chance that they would only have to look at the outdoor unit, but I can’t count on that. There’s still a possible solution my husband can try. He’s going to get a tester and check the fuses. If that’s the problem, it’s easily fixable.

There’s the anxiety. What about the mixed state?

When I get hypomanic, one of my behaviors is online shopping. And there was just a sale at Best Buy on Apple computers that lasted three days. I ordered a laptop. I made sure it was a refurbished one to keep the price down, but I also bought the mouse, the subscription to Microsoft Office, and a carrying case. It was a tidy sum, money that we don’t have because of car repairs, but I put it on our Best Buy credit card. I also told myself that it was still cheaper than air conditioning repair. (A quick Google suggests that it’s likely a wash.)

How does this solve the air conditioning dilemma? If I have a laptop computer, I can take it to Panera, McDonald’s, or some other air-conditioned place and do my work while sipping on iced tea. (Panera has plugs and outlets conveniently located, I know.) Work accomplished. Body temperature regulated. Achievement unlocked.

Of course, I realize this is a slightly ridiculous plan. I know that my anxiety and hypomania are largely responsible. Ultimately, though, I’m responsible.

There’s still the chance that Dan can get the AC working again, if the fuses are the problem. If that happens, I can return the laptop (within 15 days after I receive it). So I have options, which I love.

I’m still left with confusing feelings. Maybe I’m too fearful of the heat or too dubious about being able to do my work in an overheated room. (I don’t think so, because I’m older and have had bad reactions to heat before. Computers also have bad reactions to heat.) Maybe I was too impulsive when I ordered a new laptop and all the fixings. Maybe even with the money I earn, the credit card expense will strain our finances further. I fortuitously just received a raise at work, so maybe that will help make up the difference.

I’m not asking for advice. I’ll work this out on my own somehow or at least with the help of my husband. He knows I’m in a mixed state, but the family finances are my responsibility and he usually goes with what I think we should do.

Things should be clearer by the time I post this.

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Anxiety and Big Life Stuff

Anxiety about health is a common phenomenon. It’s only natural to worry about the human body breaking down, especially as one ages. But how much anxiety is too much? How little is too little?

When anything goes awry with my body, I get panicky. I catastrophize, imagining the worst. I have anxiety disorder in addition to bipolar, so that’s not surprising.

Once, for example, I woke up in the middle of the night with something strange happening to my arm. There was a hard spot along the side of it the size and shape of a cuttlefish bone. Instantly, I got dressed and headed to the emergency room. They took x-rays (which were ambiguous) and sent me home. If I hadn’t been so panicky, I would have realized that the problem could easily have waited until the next morning or whenever I could get in to see my doctor. But I was frightened and anxious because it was something I had never heard of and couldn’t explain.

It turned out to be sarcoid, which was treated with steroids. (There was also a spot of it on my head, which my doctor biopsied, so I now have a divot on my forehead.) The sarcoid backed off, leaving me embarrassed at having reacted so strongly.

My husband, who doesn’t have anxiety, is just the opposite. He takes injuries and illnesses much more lightly. He’s a bit accident-prone, often cutting himself or otherwise mangling his fingers and hands cooking or doing repair work. I used to have to burst into tears to get him to go for treatment, stitches, or whatever was called for. He would wrap the injury in a paper towel and some duct tape, which I understand is a guy thing. (A heart attack that he almost waited too long to get help for changed his ways. Now I don’t have to cry. He goes to the ER as needed.)

Now, however, we’re facing more serious medical possibilities. I won’t go into Dan’s, since he’d prefer to keep that story private, but it’s Big Life Stuff.

I have plenty of anxiety to talk about. Over the past few years, my knees have been getting worse and worse. At first, it only affected my balance, which was enough to make me anxious right there, fearing that I would fall in public. I started using a cane. I did fall once, at a student union where my therapist’s office was located. A flock of young women (nursing students?) swooped in, picked me up, and offered me a hot beverage. Ever since, my anxiety about falling has increased, exacerbated by a couple of falls at home.

Now, however, I’m facing more serious anxiety. My knees have deteriorated to the point that I need steroid shots every six weeks and am afraid to walk. (The doctor’s words were “bone on bone.”) The steroids work for now but won’t last. Eventually, I’ll have to get both my knees replaced. And that ramps up my anxiety to new levels.

Today, I stumbled on the stairs and my left knee almost gave out. My right knee took up the slack, but I envisioned myself lying in a heap at the bottom of the stairs. Since then, my left knee has been twinging, and I’m doubting its ability to hold up until the next round of steroids.

The orthopedist says I could need the knee replacements anytime from six weeks to six years from now. So, of course, I’m anxious that it will be sooner rather than later. I’m catastrophizing, envisioning weeks lying immobile on the couch, taking pain pills, and unable to care for myself. I understand that the doctor said it might not happen for years, but I’m reacting as if it will be next month.

To me, this is Big Life Stuff, and not just because it’s a major operation (two actually, one for each knee). I fear losing control of my body. I worry that knee replacement won’t help. I anticipate going downhill rather than improving. It’s not that I don’t trust my doctors. I’m just consumed by anxiety. I’m looking at ads for mobility scooters and fold-out chair-beds for my study. I can’t envision a future in which things will be any better.

I’m being crippled with anxiety about being crippled. And no amount of reassurance, education, or time is lessening it.

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Review: Bipolarized

My husband pointed out to me a movie available on one of our streaming services—Bipolarized: Rethinking Mental Illness, a 2014 documentary created by Ross McKenzie, a man who was diagnosed with bipolar disorder himself. In the film, he documented his journey to find treatments other than drugs for his condition. I watched it with interest and wanted to share my impressions with you. (IMDb gave it 5.7 out of 10 and said it “challenges conventional wisdom about mental illness and drug therapy through the raw personal journey of a man diagnosed as bipolar.”)

First, full disclosure: I take psychotropic medication (though not lithium, the villain of this piece) and am very satisfied with the results. However, I know that not everyone has the same experience and that there are people who are virulently against it. I’m not here to debate that today. I want to share what I learned from the movie.

The film follows McKenzie—not always in linear fashion—through his experiences with mental illness, psychotropic medications, and natural treatments. I’ll do my best here to unravel the chronology. The child of a seemingly perfect Canadian family (and more on that later), McKenzie experienced a psychotic break in 1993 when he gave away his money and clothes to street people in New York City and thought he could fly off the Empire State Building and land safely. His family convinced him to come home and were shocked at his manic behavior. At first, he was diagnosed as schizophrenic and hospitalized.

McKenzie escaped from the hospital, barged into a stranger’s house to use their phone, and ended up running down the street naked until he was subdued by police, taken back to the hospital, and put in a straightjacket in a padded room. (I didn’t know they still did that, even in 1993.) These scenes were recreated for the film.

At some point (I’m not too clear on this) his diagnosis was changed to bipolar disorder and he was given lithium. McKenzie became anhedonic, and the doctors told him this was it for the rest of his life—lithium and never accomplishing much of anything.

Determined to get his life back, McKenzie began a journey to heal himself through natural means. In 2010, he went through a lithium detox in Costa Rica. He notes that he had already tried to wean himself off lithium unsafely, making him debilitated and depressed. In Costa Rica, his detox included screaming headaches and vomiting, but was successful in getting him to kick lithium.

Next, McKenzie went to a naturopath who diagnosed him with lithium toxicity (two and a half years after he kicked it in Costa Rica) and prescribed a series of 30-40 chelation treatments to get the substance out of his system. The doctor measured his neurotransmitter levels, his bloodwork, and his kidney function for residual effects of the lithium. He also noted that McKenzie had high levels of lead and mercury (though those don’t come from lithium) and treated him for those as well.

McKenzie then traveled to Colombia, where he was treated by a shaman/psychic/psychic surgeon. It involved lying on a bed for two hours, covered in sheets of aluminum foil which were later bundled up and spit on, and meeting with his deceased father’s spirit. When back in the US, he also sampled cupping, acupuncture, and yoga, which he said helped ground him.

Other scenes in the movie include a parody commercial for “addictarin,” with McKenzie frolicking in a lawn sprinkler and sharing ice cream with a dog, before a crawl of “side effects” ran on and on, ending with death and halitosis. There was a visit with a former big pharma rep who had since denounced the system that she said was designed to addict people to psychotropics. There was footage of a protest outside an APA conference in Philadelphia which included marchers holding signs and chanting, “Hey, hey, APA! How many kids have you killed today?” McKenzie also interviewed debunker Robert Whitaker, author of Mad in America and Anatomy of an Epidemic.

At last, McKenzie saw Dr. Charles Whitfield, who said that half of patients with a psychiatric history of drugs and trauma actually have PTSD. Whitfield said McKenzie was never bipolar. Another practitioner, Peter Levine, a somatic therapist, worked with McKenzie in front of an audience to explore his family of origin and surface memories of his domineering, abusive father. One exercise involved imagining both himself and his father as seven-year-olds interacting.

The film, although it won awards, was not universally lauded. A review by H. Steven Moffic in Psychiatric Times titled “Warning: This Movie May Have Psychiatric Side Effects,” called the film a “movie selfie” and pointed out that there was no mention in it of conventional psychotherapy—only drug therapy. It also noted that no mention was made of McKenzie’s family’s evident privilege, which allowed him to travel to Costa Rica and Colombia for treatment. Most of the review, however, cited the film’s polarizing effect, pitting alternative treatments against mainstream ones, and said that he would be “very cautious” about recommending it to patients or the public. (I can’t imagine who else would be interested. Maybe psychologists?)

All in all, it was a difficult documentary to watch at times, and I thought some of the treatments seemed unlikely to help (especially the “psychic surgeon”). I’ve heard most of the debunking of psychotropic drugs before, but this was particularly vivid in the film. I think its major value lies in exposing the traumatic effects of McKenzie’s going on lithium in the first place.

Ross McKenzie now offers “mental health coaching services,” and, as stated in his 2024 blog, specializes in people “disempowered by labels” whose “perceptions were distorted by powerful psychotropics.”

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The Overwhelming Problem

screaming (Uma painting)It’s been said that time is nature’s way of keeping one damn thing after another from being every damn thing all at once. I know that taking things one at a time—eating the elephant one bite at a time—is a sound idea.

However, every now and then the damn things gang up on you. The elephant is starting to go bad and you have to eat all you can right away – to use a disgusting metaphor that I will not take any further. (You’re welcome.)

Last month was one of those months. They happen every so often. But if they happen very often, I tend to get overwhelmed. And when I get overwhelmed for too long, my brain breaks. I have a meltdown, or I decompensate, or whatever the proper psychiatric term is. In practical terms, it means that I’m severely depressed and non-functional, for longer than usual. Days. Weeks. Months. Even years.

The things that overwhelm me are quite predictable – financial difficulties, health problems, relationship glitches, and free-floating anxiety of all sorts, either my own or my loved one’s. I know that these are situations that cause difficulty for everyone, but to a person with bipolar disorder, they can seem—or even be—insurmountable. Especially when they cluster and refuse to go away.

Over the years I have become good (or at least better) at recognizing when I am about to be overwhelmed. I know the symptoms—the whirling thoughts, the jumping-out-of-my-skin feeling, the insomnia, the inability to concentrate, and the feeling that doom or disaster is impending.

There is little I can do to stave off these feelings. But I know I have to. I have to keep functioning at some level, higher or lower, to maintain the things that I want to have – productive work, a loving relationship, a nice house, caring friends, and so forth. At the time of my last major breakdown, I came uncomfortably close to losing much of that.

I try my usual remedies for anxiety, of course. I distract myself. I color. I watch mindless TV. I play stupid clicky games on the computer. I turn off my phone. But if the anxiety builds up too much, if the feared disaster is real and really is impending, none of these works. The anxiety shreds my last nerve, and the depression starts to settle in. I isolate. I stay in bed. One task at a time, I stop being able to function.

I have taken one step that has helped, however. An anti-anxiety pill is one of my daily medications—one in the morning and one at night. A few years ago, as the stress was building and approaching overwhelming, I asked my psychiatrist if I could have permission to take one more a day if I needed it.

He agreed.

I have not needed to take the extra pill every day. Sometimes I take one in the mid-afternoon if I start feeling jumpy, twitchy, or panicky. Sometimes I take one at night if I haven’t gotten to sleep within 2 – 3 hours after taking my regular nighttime pills. I know it sounds strange that a depressant helps me stave off depression, but my diagnosis is actually bipolar disorder and anxiety disorder. The med catches me at the point where the one starts to turn into the other.

I’m glad my psychiatrist trusted me not to abuse what I consider a privilege as well as a necessity. By the time I made this request, of course, we had been working together for a number of years and had built up a certain trust. I think there have been only a couple of times when I have had to take two extra pills in a day—one in the afternoon and an additional one at night. And both times, I felt guilty about it and made sure I didn’t make it a habit.

I don’t want to start gobbling pills at the least sign of difficulty. All I want is to be able to eat my elephant in peace and in pieces.

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You May Be Bipolar

If you take three different meds at night and two more in the morning…you may be bipolar.

If your therapist is on your speed dial…you may be bipolar.

If you know the difference between rapid cycling and ultra-rapid cycling…you may be bipolar.

If you have depression clothes and mania clothes…you may be bipolar.

If you’ve stayed in bed for three days and not gone to bed for three days…you may be bipolar.

If your significant other is also your emotional support animal…you may be bipolar.

If all your Facebook friends have psych diagnoses…you may be bipolar.

If your refrigerator door has 40 affirmations on it…you may be bipolar.

If you know who Gabe Howard is…you may be bipolar.

If you have a semicolon tattoo…you may be bipolar.

If you’ve ever watched a show with a bipolar character and said to yourself, “No, that’s not it”…you may be bipolar.

If Carrie Fisher is one of your heroes and you call her “Space Mom”…you may be bipolar.

If you’ve gone through a dozen medications trying to find one that works…you may be bipolar.

If you’ve ever felt depressed and jazzed at the same time…you may be bipolar.

If taking a shower is a major event…you may be bipolar.

If you keep a box of Cocoa Puffs beside your bed…you may be bipolar.

If you’ve had a yearly raise and spent it in a month…you may be bipolar.

If all these statements apply to you…you’re DEFINITELY bipolar.

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